This is a moment where it's important to keep in mind our own modern Western styles and how that might influence our views of other fantasy styles. Meaning....why is the female Noldo outfit good, but the male outfit overdone? Is one really more elaborate/out there than the other? Or...is it possible that we have trouble picturing a man being caught dead wearing something like that, whereas we don't bat an eye at the idea of a woman wearing a 'fancy dress'?
Obviously, that doesn't have to be the only reason someone might not like the design, but it's something to keep in mind. We live in a society where dressing up for men means wearing a suit in conservative colors (greys, black, navy, *maybe* white or brown), but for women it can involve any color dress in a wide variety of styles and decorations. Women can wear fancy necklaces, earrings, rings and bracelets, but men wear....a watch, one ring and maybe cufflinks or a tie-pin. WAY toned down compared to women's fashion. Like the opposite of birds' plumage 😉.
While I don't want our designs to be alarmingly distasteful to the modern audience (not the Noldor in Valinor, anyway!), I think we need a bit of ostentation in our male Noldor - it's obviously part of their culture to show off with jewelry, and that's not primarily or exclusively for the women.
And no, we aren't allowed to put the Noldor in suits. 😛~